asking for Help

help

Don't be afraid to ask for it, running your own business isn’t easy - there are so many roles you need to fill, you might be awesome at your craft but what about the rest?  Because of my anxiety around people, I must admit that I struggled with certain aspects of my business like getting in touch with clients over the phone, talking about my business in a confident way, meeting in person and, networking? … just that word alone still kind of makes me want to curl up into a foetal position in a cold sweat.

 

Promoting or marketing yourself is so important – how could people find my business or more to the point VALUE my business when I was hiding and when I did speak to clients, I didn’t want to appear salesy so I would basically downplay my skills, my experiences and my knowledge. Why would they want to go with someone who claims to be mediocre, now looking back, it’s just so silly!!  I was a little embarrassed to admit it but I needed help.

 

So with all this said - I truly believe that the universe has got our backs and when we’re fully open to that idea, that’s when good things start happening. This is when the universe brought Shannon Bush - Creative Possibility into my life. Honestly, she was the bright light that I needed and I wish I knew her sooner!! Her classes are so insightful and they really dig deep into your mindset - I’ve been having so many lightbulb moments throughout this journey and she’s renewed my sense of purpose and highlighted what really matters to me.

 

It’s a work-in-progress but what I’m learning is really allowing me to get pass some of my anxiety and fears so that I can really THRIVE in my business. Moral of this story … if you’re struggling in any area of your business, don’t be afraid to ask for help, don't suffer when you can make a change. Shannon is business yoda with a lot of heart - I have so much to be thankful for because of her support!

 

I would love to hear from you, what areas do you feel you struggle with in business and life? 

Healthy Self-Confidence

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For as long as I could remember,  I was always the shy kid that didn't speak much - this developed to full on social anxiety as I got older and it became increasingly hard for me to be around people. I'm not really sure which caused which, social anxiety causing a lack of confidence or the lack of confidence causing the social anxiety, a bit of a chicken or the egg scenario, but both hugely impacted my life. Fast forward to where I am now, and I still have a way to go but I'm making more of a conscious effort to work on my limiting beliefs. I realise though that I made the most progress and continue to make the most progress when I have support and felt supported.

The more I talk with others (now that I can somewhat do this) I realise that so many of us, for one reason or another, build mental barriers that prevent us from experiencing healthy self-confidence. I know firsthand how debilitating low self-confidence can be and I hate the idea of other women suffering because of it. I wanted to create #healthyselfconfidence to empower and encourage women. We shouldn't be afraid/embarrased/ashamed to say we're amazing, to celebrate our wins, to share our thoughts, to acknowledge our strengths, to know that we have a lot to offer the world, to make mistakes and openly talk about them, to ask for help, to feel deserving of good things, to truly love and be proud of who we are (flaws and all), to go for our dreams.

This isn't about egotism and arrogance, it's not about claiming that we're better than everyone else, putting someone else down to make ourselves feel superior, making it all about our story and thinking that no-one else's matter - none of that bullsh*t. It's about introspection and finding that happy medium in yourself - where you feel good right down to your inner core and you have faith in yourself, regardless of outside influences.

Healthy self-confidence inspires healthy self-confidence in others, spread it like glitter!

I would love for you to share something that you love about yourself in the comments. And/or repost the image and share your own thoughts, personal stories, words of encouragement, advice for #healthyselfconfidence on Insta or FB.