Boss Lady

  • Comparisonitis // Self-worth

    This has always been something that I struggle with in changing, I have this strong internal belief that everyone is better than me. When I took a social media break, I was actually much happier and in a much better state of mind because I wasn’t scrolling through other people’s feed and thinking “why should I even bother?” 🤦🤦🤦 However, part of adulting is checking in with yourself and your behaviour … and the logical me knows that avoidance isn’t how you get through life. I choose to find a different path where I can appreciate other people’s creativity and success without reflecting back on myself negatively and feeling insecure 💕

    I watched a video from Lavendaire on Youtube about comparison and a suggestion she said really stuck with me. If you’re feeling envious of someone else or you’re comparing yourself and feel like you’re not good enough, ask yourself “what exactly is the quality that you like or admire or are envious in that person?”. 🤔 When we like or admire something, it’s because a part of us connects with it. In Lavendaire’s video, she says that these qualities that we like or admire in other people, exist within ourselves and they are asking to be brought out 💃💃💃

    It has really helped me because now when I notice myself thinking “oh, they’re so amazing and I’m not as good”, I can stop myself and flip the script in my head. Then from there I think “how can I incorporate these qualities into my life” and act from a place of inspiration rather than jealousy 🌞🙌🌈

    Check out the gorgeous Lavendaire, if you are into self-development and a bit of woo woo … https://www.lavendaire.com/enough-self-worth-comparison 👈

    It’s interesting that the universe keeps bringing back to my attention the idea that “people are mirrors, we reflect back what we see onto ourselves and vice versa”. What are your thoughts on this idea of us being mirrors or flipping the script suggestion? 👯✨

  • Taking a social media break

    Sheryl Young / Illustration

    After a 4 month break, I thought it was high time I came out of social media hibernation and what better month to return to posting than my birthday month. Thank you to the lovely folks that are still following me on Instagram or Facebook or both, you guys are stars 🌟 I really appreciate your patience and support.
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    I feel like I’m in a much better headspace to share and engage, as taking time off has given me the chance to reflect on how I was approaching social media, why I wasn’t enjoying the experience and what changes I could make to shift the negative.
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    Running a biz isn’t easy and you can spread yourself extremely thin, especially if you try to do it all! If you feel like you need a detox from social media, be it a few days or a few months, I highly recommend doing so.
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    Naturally, I was concerned of losing people’s interest by being away longer than intended but that is nothing compared to the benefit of having the time to reflect and refocus so that when I came back from the hiatus, I could give you all my best and positive. At least that’s my intention moving forward!
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    Have you been on a social media break? what was your experience like? Do you find them helpful?

    You can follow my socials via Facebook and Instagram

    Please feel free to share your social media links in the comments so myself and others can support you!

  • Finding the right graphic designer

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    Pet Blessings custom logo design in one colour

    It’s always such a privilege to be part of someone’s business journey, especially right from the very beginning. A beautiful part of my job is not only building brands but building relationships with fellow girlbosses and, also the occasional boybosses 😀

    A graphic designer that “gets” you and your business is a valuable asset to have! … and I’m not just saying that because I’m a graphic designer but because visual communication is such an integral part to growing a successful brand. Can I get a hell yeah!

    I know that I’m not going to everyone’s cup of tea, but that’s okay, I recognise it’s essential to have compatibility. If you’re on the lookout for the right graphic designer for your business, here are a few key questions that I believe are important to consider.

     

    In no particular order:

    Do their visual style resonate with you and what you want for your business?

    Browse through their portfolio, their website and social media accounts – if their volume of work aligns with your aesthetic vision, you’re winning!

    Do they have the experience and have worked on projects with a similar scope to yours?

    As they say, with experience comes wisdom. So for those of you new to running a business, it might be reassuring to work with someone that’s familiar with the type of project you have and can guide you through the process.

    Do they have the type of personality you can work with?

    This is absolutely crucial! Design work relies so much on clear communication, if you’re both on the same wavelength and feel at ease with each other – it certainly makes for a far better experience.

    Do they come recommended in person or online?

    Check out their reviews and see what others are saying about their services, you’d hope to find more positives than negatives.

    Do you agree with their creative processes and policies?

    This may not sound like the funnest activity, however, I highly recommend taking the time to read through the fine print of their services as it can differ so much for designers. Every designer has an individual method to their madness – make sure you know what you’re agreeing to and you’re comfortable with the way your project will be handled!

    Do their costs match your budget?

    This is self-explanatory BUT please make sure you are sensible about your budget, be mindful that creativity takes time and effort.

    That’s it my lovelies, hopefully it’s something that’s helpful to some of you! If you’re looking for a graphic designer and you feel like you resonate with my work and style, please feel free to get in touch with me via hello[at]nevertheless.com.au

  • Networking for the socially anxious

    Hey folks, I have just come back from a Hills Biz Chicks casual catchup, come along to the next one if you’re  a fellow boss babe operating a business in the area. It was my first time with the group so naturally, I felt the nerves but I would have to say that all of the ladies I met this morning were super lovely and despite feeling sweaty and experiencing butterflies in my stomach, I really enjoyed the conversations and the laughs.

    I thought this would make a great blog topic for today seeing as it’s still fresh in my head. Hopefully for those of you that also suffer from social anxiety but at the same time run your own business, the advice below will come in handy in preparation for your next networking event.  As much as I’d like to hide behind my computer for the most part, there’s certainly advantages to attending these – it’s a great opportunity to make meaningful connections, build trust with others and create visibility for yourself and your business. Every time you attend an event, regardless of how painful it is or if you feel like you’ve made a complete ass of yourself afterwards – you learn and grow from the experience, which is why I push through my fear and make myself go. Just like any exercise, the more you do on a regular basis and the more persistent you are, your social and networking muscles will develop and you will feel stronger and confident with each and every event. Slay girl!

     

    10 Networking Tips:

    1. Affirmations – before you go, give yourself a bit of a positive pep talk. I know it kind of seems silly and embarrassing to tell yourself that you’re amazing and you’re going to kill it but it really does help place your mindset in a positive space. Even if your conscious mind wants no bar of it, your subconscious mind is soaking all of that goodness in!
    2. Dress to impress – it might sound shallow but dressing in something that makes you feel professional, authentic and damn fine will increase your sense of confidence.
    3. Get to the event early – when you’re rushing, you’re in a state of panic which is never great when you’re already anxious about meeting people. Allow yourself plenty of time for getting there and finding a parking space or whatever else you need to do, so that when you walk in – you’re as calm as a cucumber, or at least as you can be!
    4. Give yourself credit for attending – even if you don’t talk to anyone, at least you SHOWED UP and that still counts.
    5. Making one genuine connection far outweighs flitting from person to person and talking to them for a minute. It’s all about the quality of the conversation rather than the quantity!! This also puts less pressure to talk to a million people which is draining for introverted boss babes.
    6. Remember that it’s not all about you and promoting your business – engage with the person you’re talking to, ask questions, show your interest in who they are, listen and help out where you can. It’s about creating a relationship and if you’re lucky, you might end up with a new BFF.
    7. If you’re feeling really anxious, it’s okay to be honest and let the other person know – you might find that you’re not actually alone in feeling the way you do. But try not to dwell on it too much, smile, take a breathe and if you need to excuse yourself for a little time out, do!
    8. Create and commit to memory, a short paragraph that details who you are and why you’re in business. I stress the committing to memory part! When I’m really nervous, I tend to blank out but because I’ve said this paragraph to myself so many times, it usually does come to me in dribs and drabs, enough to introduce myself. Thanks gosh right?
    9. Humour tends to make everyone feel more relaxed – if you can make people laugh, it really does change the vibe for yourself and everyone else!
    10. The lucky last advice nugget is more for post-attendance – don’t forget to celebrate the positives! For so many of us, we don’t tend to do this, we only reflect back and critique ourselves harshly and negatively, which tends to discourage and damage our confidence. I don’t mean for you to ignore the things that you feel you can clearly work on, but try and approach self-improvement in a kinder and more compassionate way.

     

    From the words of one of the fiercest women in business…

     

    In today’s world you have to interact. You can’t be some difficult, shy person who is not able to look somebody in the face, you have to present yourself, you have to know how to talk about your vision, your focus and what you believe in.

    Anna Wintour

     

    Those are just a few handy pieces of advice, I’m sure there are heaps more out there – I would love to know what helps you! Please feel free to share your thoughts and advice in the comments, it’s all about sharing and caring here.